It’s “R U Ok?” day.
Wow. An entire year has passed. 1 year since my last blog post, which was about “R U OK? Day”.
I’m still not ok. There are some things in life that have a lasting effect on that can make things a struggle, or at least dull the enjoyment that can be taken through living life.
Do you ever find yourself day dreaming about the kind of life you want, and then feeling a sense of inadequacy when comparing it to your life as it is now? Do you feel powerless to reach towards your dreams?
Do you ever find yourself isolated, seemingly with no one to speak to, both on your good days and your bad? People often feel alone and isolated, disconnected, when in fact they aren’t. Just because people don’t keep in touch all the time, doesn’t mean they don’t care. They know you are there. They do think of you. They just have lives that often make them too busy for a casual chat, yet they’ll still happily make time for you if you need them. And let’s face it – we often do our best to hide what we are going through, to put on a happy face, and sometimes this is so convincing that your friends won’t even notice something is wrong – you have to tell them.
All you have to do is reach out.
There is something important you need to realise – you are not a burden on others. You are a gift to the people who have chosen to include you in their life. For it is indeed a choice to include you, rather than an obligation.
So, just tell them “I am not ok”, and let the conversation flow. Don’t hold back because you feel they will not “understand”. They don’t need to, to give you support, a listening ear, to show you that you are not alone.
If someone makes an effort to stay and be there for you no matter how f$%ked up you are, those are truly the ones you need in your life.
So, let them in.
People might not ask “R U Ok?” to show they care. They could say “Have a good day!”, “can I come over?”, “let’s watch a movie”, “are you hungry?”. Just listen, because people speak from the heart more often than you think.
Another thing you should know – you are stronger than you think. You can weather the storm. After every low, is a high.
September 10 is R U Ok? Day. It’s not about the cynical claims that you shouldn’t wait a whole year just to ask people this on 1 day of the year. It’s just about drawing particular attention to the issue.
R U OK? is a not-for-profit organisation whose vision is a world where we’re all connected and are protected from suicide.
Help comes in many forms, whether i’s a caring friend who will listen or distract you with a fun activity, support groups, social groups, and professional counsellors.
Equip yourself. Here are a few places you can get help or connect with people who are going through something similiar:
- Beyond Blue – Depression. Anxiety.
- Lifeline Australia
- Dads In Distress
- Mensheds Australia
- PTSD Break The Silence Facebook Page
- What is Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)